As a special education teacher who sometimes had assaultive students, I was trained to try de-escalate the situation, staying calm and non-threatening, while making sure I wasn't getting myself boxed in without an avenue to run for it if necessary. I have used those strategies several times during encounters with angry random strangers in public settings, and so far it's never come to violence.
Mike, I can interpret your meaning to be something like I said in my comment above, about trying to de-escalate a situation in order to avoid violence. But I'm unclear why "ladies need to avoid commentary in agitated situations." In "agitated situations," we can assume that the lady is also upset and stressed out, and possibly scared. It seems to me that expecting her to "avoid commentary" puts an unfair burden on a frightened woman under great duress. Are you implying that if she fails to keep her mouth shut, she is responsible for a man's violent response?
Norma, I think you’ve misinterpreted my comment. I wasn’t responding to your comments. I was merely adding my observation that in some hostile situations, a female partner may make inappropriate commentary in such a situation that leads to violence then inflicted upon her male partner as a result. I am sorry if it offended you in any way. Have a great day!
Well said. I believe that almost ALL later regreted negative verbalizations by humans, that trigger more violence instead of calming things down, are caused by Pride overcoming common sense and reason, within both the victim and the perpetrator of physically injurious violence.
C.S. Lewis wrote, and I agree, that "... it is Pride which has been the chief cause of misery in every nation and every family since the world began. Other vices may sometimes bring people together: you may find good fellowship and jokes and friendliness among drunken people or unchaste people. But Pride always means enmity—it is enmity. And not only enmity between man and man, but enmity to God." -- Quote from Mere Christianity by C. S. Lewis.
As a special education teacher who sometimes had assaultive students, I was trained to try de-escalate the situation, staying calm and non-threatening, while making sure I wasn't getting myself boxed in without an avenue to run for it if necessary. I have used those strategies several times during encounters with angry random strangers in public settings, and so far it's never come to violence.
Prudent advice.
And ladies need to avoid commentary in agitated situations, as the violent response usually comes down on the adjoining man
Mike, I can interpret your meaning to be something like I said in my comment above, about trying to de-escalate a situation in order to avoid violence. But I'm unclear why "ladies need to avoid commentary in agitated situations." In "agitated situations," we can assume that the lady is also upset and stressed out, and possibly scared. It seems to me that expecting her to "avoid commentary" puts an unfair burden on a frightened woman under great duress. Are you implying that if she fails to keep her mouth shut, she is responsible for a man's violent response?
Norma, I think you’ve misinterpreted my comment. I wasn’t responding to your comments. I was merely adding my observation that in some hostile situations, a female partner may make inappropriate commentary in such a situation that leads to violence then inflicted upon her male partner as a result. I am sorry if it offended you in any way. Have a great day!
As an emergency physician you are the first responder in the health system of a hospital. Good advice
Well said. I believe that almost ALL later regreted negative verbalizations by humans, that trigger more violence instead of calming things down, are caused by Pride overcoming common sense and reason, within both the victim and the perpetrator of physically injurious violence.
C.S. Lewis wrote, and I agree, that "... it is Pride which has been the chief cause of misery in every nation and every family since the world began. Other vices may sometimes bring people together: you may find good fellowship and jokes and friendliness among drunken people or unchaste people. But Pride always means enmity—it is enmity. And not only enmity between man and man, but enmity to God." -- Quote from Mere Christianity by C. S. Lewis.
https://www.dacc.edu/assets/pdfs/PCM/merechristianitylewis.pdf